Andra Berghoff wants your achievements left on your dating profile
Her response to advice about hiding career success has viewers making the case for filtering matches, not maximizing them.
Andra Berghoff
Story of Why this story? The video drew 984 comments in its first day, 6.8 times a normal first day on this channel (145).
I think this is actually the worst advice I’ve ever heard #single #advice #trending
The advice is to hide your accomplishments so more men will swipe. Andra Berghoff sees those very same photos as a useful filter.
In her commentary Short, she responds to a man she calls Craig, who tells women that pictures showing career success and ambition can intimidate men. His solution is to remove them rather than miss out on potential matches. Berghoff questions why managing that insecurity should be the woman's responsibility.
That distinction has given the comments something specific to chew over. Viewers argue that a profile discouraging an incompatible match is doing its job. One says the discussion is a reason to add a college graduation picture, not remove one.
The Short drew nearly 1,000 comments in its first day, almost seven times Berghoff's usual for the format. Its views were ordinary for her channel: the unusual part was how much conversation accompanied them.
Berghoff also makes a distinction between getting attention and finding someone compatible. Drawing on her UX/UI background, she says downplaying achievements can slightly increase male attention on apps, but rejects that as a reason to make yourself seem less accomplished.
Her closing instruction goes in precisely the opposite direction from Craig's: "Put them all on, ladies. Put every accomplishment you've ever had."
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What viewers say
Welp, gotta add a photo from my college graduation or something now.
@Jack-c6v6gSee it on YouTubeHe’s missing the part that if those pictures are filtering out guys the way he says - that is a feature, not a bug.
@falandfriends4760See it on YouTube
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- Channel
- Andra Berghoff
- Subscribers
- 244,000 ▲ 3,000 this week
- Channel views, last 7 days
- 3,628,762
- Channel views, pace per day
- 458,103 (on a normal day: 529,224)
- Video published
- October 22, 2026
- Video views so far
- 116,179 (2 days online)
- Video views, pace per day
- 78,050 (on a normal day: 74,828)
The numbers
The standout here is the first-day comment count, rather than an unusual surge in views.
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Which kind of dating-profile photo does Berghoff argue women should keep?
Berghoff encourages women to show their achievements rather than hide them to attract more matches.